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birthday flu

1157pm on a friday night. i’ve just guzzled some more tylenol-brand bedtime decongestant cold flu minty blue liquid. my post-birthday cold/flu/cough is pretty much gone, but i figure some more of this elixir can’t hurt. i may nod off at any moment, though, so be warned!

what a smashing, smashing birthday i had! starting tuesday and continuing on my actual birthday wednesday, the love poured in via phone, email, ecard, by post and by myspace, from australia and canada and england and germany and ireland and bushland. so many lovely, witty, hilarious missives and notes and jokes and poems… i’m truly blessed to have so many thoughtful loving friends.

especially considering how crap i end at remembering other people’s birthdays. or even christmas, some years.

dinner featured a mix of boys and girls, young and old, straight and gay, and i wouldn’t have had it any other way. the 14 of us sat around that table for four hours, but to me it seemed like the blink of an eye.

my 29th birthday was not a particularly poignant one for me, and as i’ve been saying the for the past few years, i’m quite comfortable with my age, and am not even mildly worried about the big 3-0 milestone next year. i will say that i feel quite lucky to have so many l.a. friends, considering i’ve only been in town for 8 months.

i have to give manny, my boy visiting from london, mad props for the brilliant card “the higher the hair, the closer to .heaven” and of course for the brilliant cake, which had the whole wait staff at o-bar in stitches.

thanks to everyone for the lovely cards, the ecards, the notes, the phone calls, the myspace bulletins, the presents, the presence, the love, and for the smiles. there really is no greater gift to a wandering global soul like myself than to be connected to my friends around the globe—thank you!

and, no, although my cake was made out of all sorts of grade-a pharmaceuticals, my present condition (cough/sneeze/sore throat) is completely unrelated to any scandalous drug consumption, boy snogging, boy shagging, alcohol guzzling from the past week… no such activities occurred, honest!

check one, check two, check please

doesn’t seem like i’ve been in los angeles for a week. but guess what, i have. i’ve been doing a great job of keeping myself busy, but i sure as hell miss my london life, my london friends. but i’m moving on.

i’ve been having a brilliant time with my long-lost l.a. friends, doing l.a. things in the l.a. sun.

friday

went out with cousin jason and his gorgeous girlfriend allison to a few [straight/surfer/sport] bars here in huntington beach on friday, which was… fun. probably the most foreign i’ve felt in a long time, but as they saying goes, when in rome… drink with the straight surfer boys. the bouncer was friendly after looking me up-and-down about 5 times. the stunning, coyote ugly-esque bartender wearing little more than a bikini top and daisy duke jeans was quite friendly to me… must’ve sussed that i’m a well-tipping gay boy alchie. i didn’t poke fun at the dancefloor until we will rock you came blaring through the soundsystem at 130am and the crowd cheered like frat boys on spring break.

saturday

after many many years, joshie finally invited me to manhattan beach to meet the fam. sat down to a lovely hom-cooked meal with his mom, sis, coworkers and bogart—who’s celebrating his 22nd birthday. i’d last seen the boys last year at disneyland, and they haven’t changed a bit. they both seemed too too excited to see me… i had to warn/remind them that i live here now, and that they’re gonna get tired of me rill, rill quick.

tiptoed over to a gross local gay bar, called the dolphin… the bar gods were seeking their revenge on me after poking fun at the straight huntington beach dive that i was at the previous night. we made the best of it, though, ending up at hermosa beach where none of the ogre-like bouncers would let us in [too many mens, not enough wimmins] so we trotted back to josh’s place, and sat in the front yard like hillbillies, drinking and chatting till the wee hours. i felt very much at home.

spent most of the night poking fun at josh’s coworker gio, who looked/acted/sounded like wilmer
valderram
[aka fez from that 70's show]. he denied any resemblance, even though i was confused when some girl named lindsay kept calling him all night.

last night

i’m so lucky to finally, finally live in the same city as my christopher. he’s intelligent, witty, sarcastic, handsome, charming and always, always seems to able to handle whatever i throw his way. together, we’ve explore the likes of england, ireland, amsterdam, san fran, san diego and now los angeles. with great excitement, i drove 14 hours up to silverlake to chill with the king of cool.

he took me to an excellent, kitschy-but-quality restaurant/lounge called the dresden. like being transported back to rat pack-era vegas, we dined like kings, with mafioso at the table across from ours, hooting and hollering as we all ate some juicy steaks.

in 5 hours, we managed to catch up on a year or so of drama and stories and boyfriends and projects and… life. we ate, we drank, and we witnessed a legendary lounge act, the 65yo husband-and-wife team of marty and elayne. i even found a video of the duo in action.

chris and i have the most playful, most adult friendship, and i can’t wait to watch as he grows to be an even bigger success, and i can drag myself along as his plus one to celebrity parties and backstage soirées at award shows. what? i’m not supposed to mention that yet? oops…

it’s so great to have friends to reconnect with, it really is. i’d be a miserable little lad right now if i didn’t have my l.a. posse here to keep me in check.

or, try to to keep me in check.

dublin

the dublin spike
henry [street] and the big erection

thursday and friday i found myself in dublin again, this time visiting mumsy and family-friend rita, with my bodyguard [atif]. very rarely do my worlds [family, high school friends, university friends, san francisco friends, work friends, new york friends, london friends] collide. i was a bit anxious, not necessarily because i feared atif and mumsy wouldn’t get along, but mainly because i hadn’t seen my mom in ages, and we had a lot of catching up to do [namely, explaining to her that i'm broke and unemployed and alcoholic and single and aimless but otherwise happy, thanks for asking].

no, i exaggerate, we all had an amazing time. atif and i started out by hanging out with simon le bon and other duran duran stragglers in the queue for the metal detectors at heathrow, before meeting up with the gals in christchurch, pretty much in the thick of things in dublin. it took me forever to get my bearings, even though i’ve visited dublin now some 6 times since 1998… maybe it’s the psychomagnetic effects of the ~`new’~ dublin spike that’s throwing off my bearings?

we slugged back some tea in the apartment, sharing stories and catching up and introducing atif to the ladies and vice-versa. we strolled around for a bit before enjoying a nice meal. in the past, i’d felt doubly-self conscious when dining with mumsy… sometimes feeling a bit pretentious or embarassed at a nice restaurant, as my mom just hasn’t been exposed to as much big-city dining [or big-city life, generally] as i have.

unlike previous attempts at me forcing metropolitan/european life down her throat, this time around she seemed very much at ease at dinner, letting me choose the wine but smoothly choosing her entrée and topics of conversation herself. topics of conversation included how much i look like my father, what the hell am i doing with my life, why don’t i ever come back to indiana to visit, and countless of embarassing eric childhood stories, of which atif will undoubtedly bring up at every future opportunity.

i also got to hear lots of stories that i’d never heard before, like my mom and dad’s very first date—it was a double-date, and my dad ignored my mom for the first two hours, since he was so nervous. or how i once turned all of my socks into sock puppets. or how my childhood dream was to own my own candy store [want some candy, little boy?] and all those repressed memories of growing up in the trailer park.

my mom’s been through a lot in her life, and the past few years have been a bit of a turning point for her, and i’ve been encouraging her to really start living life. she’s started dating again, she’s started to grow her network of friends and started to tiptoe into the big city [chicago] a bit more often. i love her to pieces—i have her to thank for encouraging me to be an exchange student when i was 15, and to attend university so far away from home, and i just want to return the favor now by prodding her to be a bit adventurous in her day-to-day routines, as tough as that may seem.

after a lovely full irish breakkie, we sent them to the airport and then atif and i proceeded to paint the town pink. we’ve become entirely too good/bad at sussing out gay scenes around the globe [manchester, tokyo, brighton, sydney in the past 6 months alone], but i wouldn’t have it any other way. we really enjoyed the front room, an almost-glamorous piano pub with a mix of gay/trendy straight/artsty common/blokey clientele.

atif kept complaining about all of the ginger boys around us, and i shushed him, explaining that they were simply rolling out the red carpet for us. i made a funny. look at me—enjoying the craic.

tiptoeing into the george was very fun, very familiar. i remember playing trannie bingo with chris [rip] in 1998. i remember breaking up once and for all with damien, sat in a booth with his mates in 1999. i remember getting dizzy from the booze with christopher in 2002. and now, 2004, i’m with atif trying to find just one attractive leprechaun to kiss my blarney stone polish my four-leaf clover [insert clever irish-themed euphamism here].

we had it on good authority from the aforementioned damien as well as two pairs of eastern-european lesbians that the ~`place to be’~ on a friday night is horsemen at the pod. queued for our jackets at the george. hailed taxi, drove to the pod. listened as doorman tells us that horsemen isn’t there any more, that we wouldn’t like the pod, that it’s an old crowd. argue with doorman, insisting that he let us in. he puts in a taxi back to the george. queue to get in. queue to check our coats.

everyone wanted to complain to me about the new smoking ban [smoking is forbidden in all public buildings in ireland, penalty €3000]. the law makes sense—no employee should be forced to inhale smoke in their workplace. but, it’s a bit draconian, it’s a bit sudden and it’s a bit strange in environments like bars and clubs, where the socializing centers around smoking, where the environment is enhanced by smoking, and where everyone there is already seriously damaging their bodies by drinking, drugging and listening to entirely-too-loud music. as a non-smoker and avid drinker/clubber, i’d argue that an exception should’ve been made for pubs & clubs, or, at least a phased approach [smoking only after 10pm or 12am or something].

this has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that i spent most of my evening freezing my bollocks off, cruising the cute smokers huddled outside the emergency exit in the alley outside the george. ;)

mardi gras

sorry for the lack of updates, but, dammit, i’m on holiday! i have so many thoughts i want to share with you, and just sorta theorize out loud [as i do]…

the gays
the concept of the gay ghetto or the gay big city is a confusing one. having lived the past 6 years in san francisco and london, and now holidaying in sydney, it’s so incredibly easy to get lulled into a sense of complacency when it comes to how far we’ve come with gay rights, and integration of gay lifestyles into society. for example, every single person i’ve encountered in sydney has been jovial and witty and apparently-accepting… the passport control at the airport [are you three queens travelling together?] to the customs officer [lemme check your duty free... booze and fags, there's a shocker!] to the reception desk at the hotel [ah, sir, back so early? it's only 4am!] but, at the press conference that .gregiño and i attended for the launch of the mardi gras parade, i was shocked back to reality when the two promoters launched into a televised tirade about the state of gay rights and gay equality in australia. there are still equality issues [age of consent, marriage, benefits, employment, immigration] as well as societal acceptance issues.

being gay is more than just bitchy one-liners, back-stabbing gossip, sex in the toilets, pink hot pants and drug addictions.

the friends
atif, .gregiño and i have been having an absolute blast… chilling out perfectly at home by the pool, dancing around our apartment to our cranked-up sound system, bouncing around from the columbian to the stonewall to arq whilst buying each other round after round of cocksucking cowboys or long-island iced teas. yay alcoholism. one worrying thing is that i believe the two of them have developed a unique form of tourette’s syndrome. as with many groups of gay friends, we’ve established our own pattern of punchlines and one-liners… in fact, many of our conversations are really just hilarious put-downs. the running nonsensical gags that they’ve been shouting to each other every 3 minutes or so include: r-r-r-r-r-rice ‘n peas ‘n tings [in a rasta accent], argh my minge is givin’ off an awfulll whiff! [in a geordy accent], do you get me, though, do ya get me?, do i look bovahed [bothered] to ya, though? do i? do i? do i? [repeat rapidly]. one could argue that they were originally taken from three non-blondes and bo selecta, but that doesn’t really help matters.

the cast of characters
who would’ve thought that my social life would be busier on holiday than at home? atif, .gregiño and i have been cycling through the following groups of friends:

eric’s posse:
scott friendly, bartender from friendly society in london, living in oz
stuart, my ex from london, living in oz
lee-ann, stuart’s cousin from ireland
dan, stuart’s flatmate from london, living in oz
.heaven paul, from london
dan, former .heaven employee, current deejay in oz
mardi gras paul, lighting organizer for marid gras party

atif’s posse
denise, atif’s friend from university, living in oz
lisa, atif’s friend from work, living in oz
matt, also known as sideways-hair-boy, atif’s stalker

gregiño’s posse
mike, cute-but-naughty, charming-but-sleazy hunk, living in oz
jason, brian & crew… pack of party animal friends-of-chris’

i run into shags on the street, exes in the park, friends in the queue, familiar faces in the club. fun.

the parade
thank god we blagged media passes, otherwise we’d have to queue for hours to get spots to see the mardi gras parade. following a week of perfectly sunny weather, the day of the parade was marred with incredibly gusty downpours, with dark storm clouds and thousands of fruit bats [hee hee] circling overhead. .gregiño, .heaven paul and myself got to move freely within the parade barriers, which allowed for some groovy close-up shots of tranny marching bands, drag queens with washed-out makeup, and lots and lots of wet, white hot pants. the rumors of the cast of kath & kim and queer eye for the straight guy were completely unfounded, and in the end the parade paled in comparison to last year’s europride or even your typical san francisco, london or manchester pride parade. i hope it’s just because of the rain. atif represented england on the england float, wearing a skimpy union jack kilt, a trendy union jack shirt, and waving union jack flags to girls aloud‘s jump. god save the queen.

the party
17,000 queers packed into the massive fox studios complex created an absolutely astonishing party. i think there were 4 or 5 gigantic rooms, each with the most specatular lazzzers, confetti cannons, stage shows and sound systems. definitely the best party i’ve ever been to—and i don’t make that statement lightly. as i mentioned above, i’ve assembled quite a cast of characters here in sydney, and even in a gigantic 17,000-person party, i still managed to run into stuart, dan, jason, brian, mike, mardi gras paul among many many others.

the connections
summer loving. holiday romance. tawdry sex. it will come as no surprise that i’ve befriended a few cuties over the past 7 days. i make no apologies for fun, safe, incredibly enjoyable sex. no sirree. but it’s been more than just guilt-free sexual release—the connections i’ve made have educated and connected me to a smattering of lovely lads, who [in the span of a lovely evening] have shared with me a slice of their lives. goofy mardi gras paul who just arrived in sydney and is succumbing to its tempations yet has huge hopes and dreams. delicious gray eyes gary from england, who is travelling the world after a breakup and refers to me a grownup. talkative brisbane adam, who is confident, self-assured, believes in open relationships and, like me, finds himself frequently dating unemployed/foreign students/café baristas. and, gogo chris who, in just 11 hours, made me contemplate moving to australia. imagine a kiss that lasts forever, and that you can barely, barely feel… you can only sense the wet heat on your lips. that’s what i’m talking about. ::shiver::

coconut teaser

i found a funny picture of my friend chris from university… that boy loved sitting and laying on my floor. he had this thing about always being lower than everyone else in the room. that boy cracked me up.

it’s been one month now since chris passed away. i’ve been reliving a lot of our fun times, with anecdotes and recollections popping into my mind at the strangest times. the time he and i had to sing total eclipse of the heart to a bunch of locals at a pub in kilkenny, ireland. or the time he and i [covered in glitter, camp as christmas] nearly got stabbed on a nightbus by a foul-mouthed camden-bound punk rawk vixen, until chris reasoned with her and lent her his lighter. or the time he showed up on the last day of cs20 lecture and, rather than turning in his completed term project [like the rest of the class], he instead loudly mixed up a cosmopolitan and offered one to the professor. or swinging in the dabney swings and gossiping about which boys on campus might be gay [hint: none].

i have this eerie sensation that he and steve are peering down at me and cracking jokes. sorta like guardian angels but with much much naughtier senses of humor.

travel bug

ooh my travel bug is itching. i need to scratch it. big time.

i went to miami for christmas, which was lovely. it was relaxing, and fun. but it wasn’t filled with new experiences or stimuli. i had been before, and didn’t venture too far from south beach for the 5 days we were there.

i miss experiencing new places. there’s nothing quite as exceptionally stimulating as getting lost in a country where you don’t speak the language. i’m not going to mention clichéd experiences like oh i love trying new food or the locals were fabulous or the sunset was to DIE for! no, not i. i’m not a tourist.

tower bridge
blasé blasé blasé

i love the way that i become incredibly social and introspective and worldly and easygoing when i’m in a foreign environment. i love being exhausted at the end of the day, because my brian is processing 500% more than it normally does.

i love starting with a fresh canvas, a clean slate, and writing down exactly who i am, what i’m doing, where i’m going and why i’m living my life the way that i am. i love actually talking to people. wandering into a hardware store in a suburb of amsterdam, and listen to some techno music for 20 minutes with the 65-year old shopkeeper. enjoying beers after the horse-riding festival with a family you befriended at the nude beach in rostock, germany. watching the sun trickle through fog over the mossy hills of kilkenny, ireland after sharing souls with a lovely lad.

i’ve never had a proper travel companion. toured europe with steve, andy and adrienne. partied in ibiza with duane and tye and jaime. been to sweden with lisbeth, matt and frank. seduced ireland with two different boys named chris. i want someone, anyone, whom i can ring up, and say, hey, let’s go to sri lanka next weekend and they’ll say, alright! the only valid excuses are i can’t afford it right now or i can’t get time off work. i want someone [friend or boyfriend or whatever] who has their [traveling] priorities straight!
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media whore

i finally finished reading at swim, two boys by jamie o’neill. the 600-page mini-tome is more than just your usual gay coming-of-age/first-love story. the best fiction i’ve read in a year, at swim is the tale of jim and doyler, two pals growing up at the brink of WW1 in the sleepy outskirts of dublin, ireland.

o’neill has a varied and unique style of writing, and his use of rapid-fire perspective changes between the characters paces the novel appropriately — calm and detail-oriented when life is good and warm for the lads… fast and furious when the irish rebellion explodes across dublin.

i’m giving my brain a few days off, and am enjoying barrel fever by demented and witty david sedaris… i need to check amazon to see if he has any more books out… he’s laugh out loud funny, if you’re in to that kinda humor.

ta gra’ agam duit

anticipation, of what might be
like never before
[so many times before]
the potential
is there for something… some thing

snog in the medieval passage

you’re halfway around the…
back where
i left you
you left me
there

accented whispers

you made me cry
in a good way
like no one else
like no one could
your soft lyrical nature
sings through my heart
even now

green mountain sunrise

and now i wait
for the note
for the call
for you

ta gra’ agam duit




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