archive for March, 2003



tales of my city

hair is probably my favorite musical, ya know
let the sunshine, let the sunshine in.

i’ve been in a post-birthday, midweek slump. poor me. i blame it on the aliens! look at the crazy morse code signals they projected onto my wall this morning! nice try, greenies!

landlord charlie stopped by to talk furniture, gossip about the new flatmate mitch and to chat about his impending trip to san francisco with the boyf. as i raved for hours and hours about san fran, and drew maps and started to get out the photos, i realized that i still love that town. it could be, also, because this week i finished the last two novels in the tales of the city series—celebrating the nuances of san fran. awww.

irish lee surprised me yesterday with a picnic lunch in finsbury park. quite considerate, and just perfect. we had spent the entire weekend together, from our date friday, to birthday celebrations saturday through to relaxing sunday to me finally kicking him out on monday. sure, i was sick of him by monday afternoon, but that didn’t mean that a quick lunch on tuesday was unappreciated.

sure, i used to get a thrill out of kissing a boy in san fran. kissing a boy in finsbury park [or on blackstock road, or at the tube station] is much more of a thrill, say i.

but, then again, maybe the passersby could care less, and maybe i’m only conquering a fake threat that only i view through my smalltown-usa amber-tinted goggles. maybe? the tall dodgy-looking carribean street thugs don’t seem to mind. nor do the bratty ratty schoolgirls picking at their kfc and gossiping filthy gossip. even the shopkeepers that look like osama don’t seem to raise an eyebrow.

just in my bed

woof!

i’m a hard-edged, emotionless, big city boy. nothing phases me, and i roll with the punches. cold as ice, they call me. all the time. behind my back. and it’s true… i can care less about you or your feelings or the world around me. i never pay any attention to passersby.

oh, except for puppies. oh how i adore puppies. when i was growing up in indiana we had a gigantic basset hound named bonzo who was bigger than me. i loved him and used to try to ride him like a horse cuz he was so big… two of my earliest childhood memories are falling into a big pile of his poo, and him mauling me after i pulled his tail.

we then had freckles, a hyperactive black-and-white-haired pup that my whole family adored… he was a dumb dog, though, and the number-one rule of the house was to always make sure he never got outside the house. well, my dumb lazy brother michael let freckles escape one afternoon. it was an accident, but he kinda knew what was happening, and only half-heartedly chased after him. i cried the whole way to the vet a few hours later when they called me to come pick up his bloody run-over body.

my family back home currently has buster, a large tan-haired german shepherd mix. he’s 9 years old, but really behaves like a baby puppy. because i only return home once or twice a year, it takes him a while to remember me… i’m usually greeted with a few minutes of growling and confusion, and then, once he realizes it’s me he jumps on me and pees all over the place. it’s quite endearing.

well, irish lee has managed to hit a soft spot, finding a crack in my icey facade. last week he gave me a little stuffed puppy, and he jokingly refers to me as his puppy. i know, it’s really disgustingly cute. he got me an adorable birthday card with a puppy on it, and we even enjoyed some scooby snacks a few nights ago. i think his flatmates occasionally hear barking coming from his room.

more than a white picket fence, i think the sign that i’ve made it to the next level of success in my life will be when i get to have a puppy. i really can’t wait.

ahh, youth!

thanks to everyone for the birthday love, the gifts, the drinks, the transatlantic phone calls, the emails and for making this ides of march absolutely spectabulous. it’s now monday evening, and i am nowhere near recovered.

met up with irish lee on friday for dinner [zizzi] and a movie [life of david gale]. we celebrated my birthday at midnight with some strawberries and champagne and… other gifts. i’ll do anything for those scooby snacks! :twisted:

for saturday i kept things really really simple. i didn’t want to have to make reservations or stress out about people being late or anything, so we just had dinner at satsuma, drinkies at friendly society and then some dancing at .ghetto. the night was just perfect… manny brought his cute finnish boy tamu [not as a gift for me, sadly], flatmates adam and steve brought their aussie charms, cousin michael brought cutie galam and a long-lost american lad. atif brought straight john and his other friend, charlie [how do you do!], of course my most fabulous friends .gregińo and marky were there [with fab gifts!], former flatmate felix was there with his aussie boyf brian, california zeke showed up, eventually. there were birthday smooches from simon the biter, brazilian wandson and fluffer ian.

don’t tell anyone, but there were a total of six of my exes there saturday night. six! is there any other way for a gay man to accrue friends in this god-forsaken hamlet? in addition to the expected raunchy cards and sex toys, i got some spiffy shirts, a few books a dvd and plenty and plenty of cocktails. i don’t remember much of saturday except for snogging a few dozen peeps at friendly, and stealing cocktails at .ghetto while popstarz simon spun some awful tunes.

the party pretty much continued sunday, with a few more flatmate interviews and some lovin’ with lee. we found us a new flatmate to replace steve… his name is mitch, a zesty julliard-trained canadian new yorker. and [promise not to tell anyone] he sounds exactly like the first love of my life, jeff. just his voice, though, and not his looks, so there’s no worries there. lee hung out all day sunday too, even though i tried my best to get him to go home.

when he left this afternoon, i presented him with a certificate of acheivement for having spent 80 consecutive hours in my bed.

always forget something

my list:
write last article for xy39
sorted out guestlist for birthday tomorrow
clean flat
download new episode of will & grace
water chia pet
go grocery shopping

gotta have that funk


look into mine eyes, yes

aussie steve is moving out, which i guess is sorta sad but kinda good. i love him to death, and he’s a really fun friend, but he’s not the best flatmate. he’s not that clean [and this is coming from me], i have a feeling he mooches my food and for some reason we’re just generally awkward around one another lately. i’m interviewing a slough of cuties this weekend. for my birthday, landlord charlie is delivering two south african boys, presumably to check out the flat. they’ll each have one hour to be interviewed by me and check out the beds accommodations. an hour each is quick, but it can be done :twisted: there’s also an english boy and a canadian lad as well.

in addition to those birthday presents, i begrudgingly agreed to organize some sort of stoopid party for myself. i hate birthdays. especially when you’re turning 26 24 like me. because my birthday falls on a saturday, i decided it would be best to avoid any elaborate dinner/party plans, and just have a quick meal and some clubbing. email me if you wanna come along & haven’t heard from me yet.

hung out with atif and greg last night… atif moved to australia just a few weeks ago, but decided to scurry back to his uk home for a variety of reasons. i was really disappointed with him [and told him very clearly that i was], but i’m glad that he’s back. and, he brought me a most interesting gift, click on the photo below to discover what it actually is.

far from heaven


blimey.

met zeke [a cute spikey blonde californian friend-of-a-friend] monday morning, fresh off-the-boat from san diego. his first day in england, i did my best to host my bunac permit-holding friend. he’s in an almost identical situation as i was just 5 years ago…

bored with my american life. anxious for change. exploration. big-city life. new adventures.

naive [why don't they have tortillas here?]. obnoxiously american [oh my god your accent is so kewl]. confused. shy. overwhelmed. jetlagged.

i took him to the king william pub in hampstead for lunch, bought some groceries and then explained to him how international dialling and the london underground work.

to celebrate the resumption of my normal life after two weeks of deadlines, i planned on meeting marky in town for some evening cocktails. he was just 9 minutes late, but in those 9 minutes, waiting for him at leicester square, i became self-conscious, embarassed and [dare i say] enraged.

c’mon, guys the theat-uhrr thing starts in like 5 minutes!

… isn’t it by the river tham-ees?

oh my gawd they said lion king was sold out. this sucks, dude!

i swear that i’m not anti-american… perhaps part of my rage was due to my american-overload from hanging out with zeke earlier. perhaps the spring-break tourist season is upon us. perhaps i really am not true-to-my-roots. i dunno, i was just ready to strangle some jansport-wearin’, lie-chest-er square sayin’, yankees ballcap-sportin’, mcdonalds-eatin’ yanks.

mark and i enjoyed one cocktail at ku [skinny old guys], friendly [cruisy chubby straight girls], village [unhappy smelly bartenders] and g-a-y bar [loud watery cheeky girls] each before stumbling upon irish lee and his two mates at retro bar. he was perturbed [rightfully so] to see me, since i told him i’d ring him if i could get away from work.

inside .heaven were the usual boys… particularly, two cuties that i’ve had my sights on since i met each of them. first there’s cutie tom, who—get this—is not only not a student, but even has a real job and earns real money. i know! i obviously have some strange affinity for students, but tom has the most gorgeous smile, and can hold his own against my conversational charms. he’s always had a boyfriend, though, which has always meant my flirtations go unreciprocated.

the second boy was manchester rory, aptly named from our encounter in manchester and the subsequent friday naughtiness back in london. he never really returned my last few text messages, so i figured he wasn’t interested in pursuing things. fair enough.

so, yesterday, in the presence of tom and manny, with rory just a few feet away, i discover that the friday night that rory and i hooked up, he and tom had been dating for some time, and that, on that friday i caused a massive fight and eventual breakup. i had no idea they were together, so was therefore innocent.

this explains why tom was upset with me the last few times i saw him, and why rory was avoiding me. i hope i managed to smooth over things betweetn rory and i, and tom and i. all three of us had dates last night, but that didn’t stop a little bit of smooching on the side. you know, for consolation’s sake.

ah, .heaven. after the drama with the above lads and scottish david‘s friend ben, i danced with irish lee and his harem to the bumping hardbag tunes, navigating the dj sammy remixes and middle-aged [ageist!] asian [racist!] cuddlepuddles. till closing. i got some strange relationship/guilt-trip/anger vibes from lee on the nightbus home, but, to be honest, i wasn’t in the mood to sort through any relationship issues, since we don’t have a relationship.

cold hearted eric.

dragged myself back from outer uzbekistan [zone 6] into london this morning to enjoy a devine lunch at cubana… spicy funky tapas and plenty of mojitos. fried sweet potatoes. crab cakes. plantain. mmmm… mark made sense of my boy situation[s], i made sense of his employment situation[s] and we decided to go see a matinee, settling on far from heaven, which we both enjoyed thoroughly. amazing visual presentation of 1950s suburbia, coupled with amusing [but not piss-taking] era slang, and honest [but still prejudiced] thematic representations of homosexual and interracial stigmas. two thumbs up.

and, thankfully, i shall be far from .heaven myself for a while. :wink:

the future


the future is here! finally!

wired writes about the sony ericsson clicker, the first practical proximity-sensing application for bluetooth-enabled phones. the concept is simple—you keep your mobile phone in your pocket, and as you approach/leave your work and home computers, they react. like how?

pausing music as you leave, unpausing when you come back.
when you come back after lunch, it tells you how many emails you have.
when you come home, your central heating system turns on.

in addition to proximity-sensing, you can use your phone as a truly universal remote… delivering presentations on your computer, pausing movies, shutting down your computer, etc.

considering that bluetooth has been around for over 6 years now, its good to see that someone’s come up with a practical application. what i’d like to see next is mobile-to-mobile proximity sensing…

[phone vibrates] cute 23yo lad 4.2m ahead. enjoys travel, sushi and depeche mode

too bad my sexy triband bluetooth phone was stolen on new year’s day. i’ve always been a devout ericsson fan, but how sexy is new nokia 7250?! 4096-color display, triband, gsm, gprs, java games, fm radio, polyphonic tones, syncs with outlook and has a digital camera! :shock:

do you still feed the animals?


quiet calm invader

i took friday night off to go and play and socialize and, well, to have a proper date with irish lee. to set things, erm, straight, irish lee isn’t irish, ya know—he’s english. but, he’s a bit of a crazy lad, and adopts a variety of accents/personas. when i met him he was pretending to be irish, so that’s how the name stuck. i’ve also enjoyed him as italian, brazilian, german, hillbilly american and on friday as a thuggish east-end school bully.

spent a good 15 minutes roaming around covent garden trying to find that romantic restaurant zizzi, but, i got us horribly horribly lost. instead we snuck in to an over-the-top italian restaurant called luigi’s. i mean, does the water need to be imported from italy? lots of giggles and smiles and gazing throughout the meal. i was enjoying spending time with him, but also enjoying putting my work on hold for one evening—being on deadline with the mag has really sucked away the rest of my life. delightful sea bass tortellini and wine and dessert and yummm!

took little convincing to go to .popstarz. we arrive, and there’s no queue! and i was so looking forward to impressing him with my guestlist action. i mean, how sexy am i… hey, baby, i can put you on the .popstarz guestlist. pshyeah.

in general, taking a date to a club is really never a good idea is it? obviously there are plenty of undesirable situations. i run into an ex. he runs into an ex. or a current fling. or my drunken friends. or a way hot boy. all of these things happened, but we survived. :cool:

simon the biter was there, which was… interesting. he had just finished his first day at his new job at the friendly society, and was looking divine as always. he didn’t know anyone else at .popstarz, so he attached himself to lee and i, which was fine, i suppose. i mean, simon and i are supposedly fine with our just friends status, but i still felt incredibly uncomfortable showing affection for lee in front of simon. everyone seemed to be cool with the situation, so maybe i [or my ego] was just overreacting.

breakfast in bed consisted of müsli with peach and maracuya yogurt, toast with blueberry conserve and nutella spread, and coffee. good things come in threes :wink:

folded socks


just want someone to run with, jeez!

i love nothing more than to say, told ya so!

yeah, it’s petty, and i can be that way sometimes. so lemme make a prediction: on my birthday, march 15 [in just over one week's time], i shall be single. i will not have a boy to share dinner with, or a romantic birthday kiss with, or have someone with whom i can be pleasantly surprised by a thoughtful present.

why? cuz it’s always been that way. in my 24 [cough!] years on this earth, i’ve never had a boyfriend [much less a date!] on my birthday…

[1995-] i didn’t really start dating until 1995. well, maybe 1994…

[1996] sam dumped me at the end of my first semeseter at college. he was cute, but was getting expelled.

[1997] steve and i grew apart after unwisely deciding to live together. we became great friends later, and that was cool. i miss him.

[1998] i moved to london [the first time] the day after my birthday, single but up-for-it. that year i spent my bday packing. and not in that way, you filthy tart!

[1999] i had a straight boyfriend, clayton. that certainly doesn’t count. he did join me for dinner, but just as special friends as he called it. i’m not bitter, really.

[2000] phillip was the boy who broke my heart on the night of my birthday party. i vividly remember me at 4am, all alone, sitting in my trashed house, ringing him on his mobile phone.

[2001] christopher moved 5000 miles away from me, just weeks before my birthday. i love that boy.

[2002] found myself slurping champagne in tijuana with damien, but he refused my marriage proposal. that was my our first meeting, and perhaps his friendship was a nice birthday gift.

[2003] -

i just want someone to run around with, to take my socks off and fold them neatly, and to buy me a really tacky birthday card with a naughty/romantic message written on the inside.

someone whose name i can write in steam
upon the shower screen
with my right hand.



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